Healthy boundaries are limits we set to keep ourselves safe and well. Unlike ultimatums, which require action from others, boundaries are all about our own behavior.
I’ve been reminded this week that “No” is a complete sentence. For a long time, I didn’t set limits on how I would respond to people and situations that made me uncomfortable because I was worried that I would hurt their feelings or cause them to dislike me. In the end, I stretched myself so thin and eroded so much of my own sense of self, that it produced the same result.
Part of recovery is recovering my own agency to set healthy limits. It feels good.
You can read more on identifying, setting, and maintaining healthy boundaries here.